Flowers, Vilnius and a Mission

“Loving yourself means becoming the best version of yourself, so you naturally won’t hurt other people”

Hey there, I am back with more insights on my life and my thoughts. This time I am writing you from Daugirdiskes, a small village close to Vilnius. My heroine from Liverpool brought me here (I promise, I will write about her this week!).

After a night in a way too soft bed, we started the day with a guided meditation – and it was as if I had another night full of sleep – so refreshing. We continued with exploring ourselves, what values are important to us and discussing self-love. Both are topics that interest me now for quite some time, so I want to share the insights with you and if you feel like discussing the topic with me, I’d be more than happy =)

My values right now are: My values 6 years ago:
∞ Self development    ∞ Relationship
∞ Connections    ∞ Money
∞ Freedom    ∞ Materialism
∞ Experiences    ∞ Safety
∞ Good Health, Wellbeing & Consciousness ∞ Pleasing others

It made me realize how much I changed and it feels like I am living in another reality compared to 6 years ago. I was discussing it with friends, I remember exactly the moment when my world “shattered” and I decided to take another path. It was like waking up in the Matrix and seeing reality for the first time. Before I did everything to be successful according to the definition of society: Having a house with a garden, 2.5 kids, a husband, a car and going on holiday 1-2 a year. These were all things I got taught are important in life. When I realized that is not me, I started my journey to find myself and my own values. It took me 6 years (it feels way longer 😮 ). Today I was realizing (yes yes a day full of realizations) that I became the person I want to be and do what I wished for – traveling the world and calling it my job (and actually enjoying it)!
So the first workshop of today showed how important it is to define your own values and distinguish the expectations and values from others and society from your own.

The next topic that came up was self-love. Someone asked the question: How can you love yourself without hurting other people? Sadly it happens that people talk about self-love but are nothing than egoistic and in that way hurt others. Karolina said something wonderful to answer that question in a very simple way and I strongly believe she is right:

“Loving yourself means becoming the best version of yourself, so you naturally won’t hurt other people”

What if that is not enough because being the best version of yourself is not who others want you to be and they will be mad at you?
Well – that’s their responsability, how they want to deal with their emotions and decisions. People could also choose to love you the same way you love yourself. What’s the point in pretending to be someone else so they love you? It is exhausting and it definitely won’t last.

Finding the way to yourself and develop self-love is one of the hardest things in life. So many people and society, their values and expectations are in the way. Don’t give up – it’s worth the struggle. Finding and loving oneself brings a new peace and happiness into your life.

Impressions of Vilnius